The “50-50 Marriage”: A modern strategy for wrecking your home

You cook, while your husband does the dishes.  You get the kids up in the morning; he puts them to bed at night.  You clean the bathrooms, and he vacuums.  Sound like a dream come true?  After another rough day of trying to balance life at work with life at home, this arrangement sounds perfect, nearly divine.  And yet, expecting this kind of cooperation from your husband could be dangerous for your marriage. At least, it’s not the perfect solution.

For Such a Time as This

I’m not a worrier typically, but occasionally, there is a fear I have–I fear for the future of my children. I suppose I’m not alone, that my fear is typical of many mothers, but it doesn’t make the “what if’s” less startling. Before the birth of each of my children, a part of me has paused and wondered, “Should I?”

The “Homekeeper”: a Virtuous Woman’s Career (Part 2)

She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. –Proverbs 31:24

When the Bible talks about being “keepers at home” in Titus 2, the point goes beyond staying at home or working in an office.  The point is where we place our priorities, concerns, and primary interest.  In the description of a virtuous woman in Proverbs 31, the virtuous woman is busy with many enterprises, some domestic and some that take her beyond her home.  She considers a field, buys it, and plants a vineyard.  She spins cloth for her family, for the needy, and for profit. Yet, in the midst of her enterprises, her one loyalty is her home.

The “Homekeeper”: a Virtuous Woman’s Career (Part 1)

To be … keepers at home…that the word of God be not blasphemed.  –Titus 2:5

We are blessed to live in an age today where a woman can receive the highest education and the best career.  The world of opportunity is at our fingertips to be anything we want to be–well, almost anything.  With a great victory, we also suffered a loss.  With opportunities outside of our homes, many of us lost opportunities to stay at home.  But does that mean that our hope of being virtuous women and “keepers at home” is hopeless?

The war of “career women” versus “stay-at-home moms” can be a brutal one, each one trying desparately to make what she does more significant than what someone else does.  The truth is that these battles, besides being emotionally traumatic, are quite unnecessary.  Ladies, we’re missing the point.

Successful Womanhood

I don’t know how many times I’ve ended a day exhausted with all that I’ve had to do, and yet, when I began to review what I had gotten accomplished, I’d fight back tears of discouragement.  How is it possible to work so hard and get so little done?  Then, the false guilt would haunt me–I’m a failure. 

But then, I’d pause and try to recollect the essence of success in the realm of life that I’m in today.  Is success an accomplished list of To-do’s? Checkmarks on a page?